Several women
do wonder whether it is possible to win a man. A number of them have resulted
to accepting their fate about the men in their lives as it seems pleasing them
is an impossible task that require rocket science to achieve.
This however
is the same with the men. In my own view and with years of experience dealing
with both sexes I have found that human beings generally are difficult to
please. And it is even more difficult when in a relationship.
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that,
if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the
conversation of the wives;
2 While they
behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
3 Whose
adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of
wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
4 But let it
be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the
ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great
price.
5 For after
this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned
themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
6 Even as Sara
obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do
well, and are not afraid with any amazement. 1Pet.3
Given in this
post are 6 ways to win your man and have him commit to you, and you alone till
death do you part.
1. Be his wife
This is the
foundation of every relationship that will last a lifetime between a man and a
woman. It would amount to wasting of time and effort if you spend your time
chasing and labouring on a man that you have not accepted to be his wife.
16 Unto the woman he
said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou
shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he
shall rule over thee. Gen.3
Throughout the
Christian bible there is no place where the instruction to win a man was
directed at a spinster, girlfriend, or concubine. It was directed at the wife.
It is important
to know that the wife of a man is the only woman dutifully bound to win him by
the word of God. She is the only one with the mandate to win him as his wife.
Perhaps the
reason he has not been treating you well is because he does not see you as his
wife yet, even though you both live under one roof.
Every woman
who wants to win a man must first become his wife. Until you take that decision
to be his wife, to spend the rest of your lifetime with him under whatever
circumstances or condition it will be difficult to win his heart.
2. Submit yourself to
him
You must be
willing to voluntarily yield or surrender yourself to the will and authority of
your man. Col.3:18.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own
husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife,
even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto
Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Eph.5
18 Wives, submit
yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Col.3
By submitting
you allow him to rule over you. You allow him to take the lead in your life not
minding whether he is capable or not. Submit to him as unto the Lord. He is
your lord and your submission to the Lord must be replicated to your husband.
3. Subject yourself to
him
The word subjection is superior to the word submission. A subject is
someone who as a result of position or circumstance is under the control of
another or authority. Your position as his wife forces you to become a subject
to him even though you may be more intelligent than him.
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to
your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the
word be won by the conversation of the wives. 1Pet.3:1
It does not
matter if you are sharper than him. Subjection makes you put your thoughts, resources,
fame, and opportunities under his control. He owns you as his subject.
Here is a
true picture of what subjection is. Submission makes you tell him how much you
earn, but subjection makes you hand over your pay envelope to him as your lord.
While submission is to kneel to greet him subjection on the other hand is to
remain on your kneel until he is through greeting you. I know the latter may
not apply to every culture.
24 Therefore as the church is
subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Eph.5
4. Win him with your
conversation
Many women think
the way to win a man and make him stay permanently is by offering him regular
good food and mind-blowing sexual experience. In as much as these things matter
in marriage, you need to know that the kind of conversation you employ in your
relationship will determine whether he will stay with you or not. 1Pet.3:1,
Eph. 4:22
If you used
food and sex to win a man you have won the wrong man. He will move on when a
better cook and sexy model appear on the scene. It is just a matter of time.
The modern
sense of the term conversation is mutual, talk, colloquy, but in the King James
Version of the bible it never means that, but always behavior, conduct.
3 Among
whom also we all had our conversation in times past in the lusts of our flesh,
fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind; and were by nature the
children of wrath, even as others. Eph.2
This word is
never used in scripture in the sense of verbal communication from one to
another. It means one’s relations to a community as a citizen. The same way, a
wife must exhibit good conduct and behavior for her to win her husband.
22 That ye
put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt
according to the deceitful lusts; Eph.4
5. Treat him with
respect and honour
You want him
to love you? Treat him with respect and honour. I have not seen a man who does
not like respect and honour.
Learn to
massage his ego. Make him feel like an emperor. Treat him with respect and
honour he will not leave you.
6. Read and practice
the Bible
You cannot
win your man by learning from Hadley Chase, Mill & Boom and other romance
novels. Relationship literatures and books are good but they are limited in
their ability to provide the holistic help that you need in order to enjoy your
marriage and relationship. 2Tim.3;16-17
The keys to
winning your husband are resident in the bible. The bible is the only manual
that provides answers to the entire needs of your marriage and relationship.
You cannot
read and practice the bible in your relationship and fail. Marriage will work
if partners practice the bible. The instructions from the book of life are
always winners any day.
However,
because it goes so strongly against our cultural mindset you may find it very
tough and difficult to practice initially, but if you persist it will always
payoff.
You must
know that God originates marriage and no one can question His wisdom. The instruction
to win your man is not about your husband but about you.
The
instruction to win your husband is to you his wife and you must be willing to
obey the word of God that will grant eternal peace in your relationship and
home.
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