According to the story the
mother of nine is seriously in a relationship with her eldest son and both are
now asking the authorities to allow them the right to marry as every other
being.
Monica Mares, a 36-year-old
Clovis, New Mexico, mother and her 19-year-old son, Caleb Peterson, whom she
recently reunited with after she gave him up for adoption when she was just 16,
are now fighting for the right to maintain their sexual relationship "just
like the gays" after they were arrested and charged with incest.
Mares and Peterson could each
face up to three years in prison and a $5,000 fine if convicted, according to
the Clovis News Journal. But her son believes if consenting gay adults are
allowed to have sexual relationships without fear of the law, he and his mother
should be allowed to live in peace as well.
"We
are both consenting adults. If it comes down to it, it's just like the gays. As
long as they're over 18 everything is fine. So I thought … I'm 19, she's and
adult, I'm an adult, I can make my own decision. I never thought it would blow
up like this. Honestly, if it wasn't that strong we would not be
together," Peterson told the Daily Mail in a recent interview.
A criminal complaint filed Feb. 25 and cited by the Clovis News Journal says police responded to a domestic dispute near a home the mother and son shared on Edwards Street in Clovis and during the dispute they were informed of allegations that Peterson and Mares were having sexual relations.
"Caleb admitted to
having a sexual relationship with Monica whom he knows to be his biological
mother," the criminal complaint stated.
Mares, who has a total of
nine children, denied having sexual relations with her son, according to court
records. But she recently admitted publicly in the Daily Mail that they are
indeed lovers and nothing will stop them from being together.
"He is the love of my
life and I don't want to lose him. My kids love him, my whole family does.
Nothing can come between us not courts, or jail, nothing," she told the
Daily Mail.
"I have to be with him.
When I get out of prison I will move out of Clovis to a state that allows us to
be together," she added, even though incest is a crime in all 50 states.
Court records show Peterson was adopted by another family as a child and had only recently re-established contact with his mother and moved to Clovis, according to the Clovis News Journal.
"Caleb stated his mother
had always had bad luck with men and had been in abusive relationships all her
life. Caleb felt if he was there to take care of her, she would not have to
deal with abusive men anymore and he would take care of the household and his
younger brothers," the complaint against the couple reads.
It noted that the
relationship between mother and son turned romantic and sexual in nature after
Peterson moved in with Mares sometime after his 18th birthday.
Clovis District Attorney
Andrea Reeb said the Clovis-Portales prosecutor's office has handled about 10
cases of incest since 2000, but none of them were between two consenting
adults. She said she did not have enough information to know how she might proceed
with this case.
"I can't put my personal
views into it," she said. "If they violated the statute, even if it's
consensual, it's the law and we will prosecute it. If the facts are weak, I
might use discretion. … I just can't get all the information to make that
decision at this early stage in the proceeding," she said.
The couple were scheduled for
an arraignment in Clovis on Wednesday. In the Daily Mail interview first
published on Monday, the mother-son couple said they chose to go public with
their relationship to get help with their legal fund and raise awareness about
Genetic Sexual Attraction.
According to the Telegraph,
GSA is a powerful sexual attraction that occurs when biological relatives —
parent and offspring, siblings or half siblings or first and second cousins —
meet for the first time as adults.
An ABC News report notes that the phenomenon
was first identified by Barbara Gonyo in the U.S. in the 1980s. She wrote the
book, I'm His Mother, But He's Not My Son,
which recounts her personal story of reuniting and having sexual feelings for a
son she had placed for adoption when she was 16.
While
there isn't much research on the subject, some researchers have hypothesized
that an effect in infancy known as the Westermarck effect protects against GSA.
When families live closely together, according to the theory, they become
desensitized to each other as sexual prospects. This desensitization effect is
supposed to happen between birth and age 6. The absence of this process is what
creates GSA.
Psychotherapist
Robi Ludwig told USA Today that though it is a
"phenomenon that happens rarely, sexual attraction between parents or
siblings who meet later in life can happen.
"We are drawn to what is
familiar," Ludwig said. "When there is a genetic link, that can
increase, especially if you are not raised together … knowing that it shouldn't
happen."
David Finkelhor, a sociology
professor at the University of New Hampshire told USA Today that he is
skeptical of that argument.
"The vast majority of
people getting back in touch with relatives would vastly prefer to have a good
long-term relationship with their mother or sister they did not know than
jeopardize that relationship by sexualizing it," said Finkelhor, who is
also director of the Crimes Against Children Research Center.
Peterson told the Daily Mail
that he started falling for his mother a week after moving in with her.
How I killed my wife’s lover on our matrimonial bed.
"I never had anyone cook me meals or give me anything," he said. "I never got anything my entire life, and she went out of her way to make me happy, and after about a week or so I started having feelings for her, and I guess I fell in love."
"I never had anyone cook me meals or give me anything," he said. "I never got anything my entire life, and she went out of her way to make me happy, and after about a week or so I started having feelings for her, and I guess I fell in love."
Mares told the Mail she was
the one who made the first move but he also makes that claim as well.
"He was too, falling in
love with me ... and I was falling in love with my son," she told the
Daily Mail. "We took off to the park. ... I asked him, 'Would you ever
date your mom?' And he said, 'Would you ever date your son?' And I said,
'Honest truth yes, I would.'"
Ludwig argued that the idea
of normalizing incest, even in a "consensual" GSA case, can be
dangerous, especially when it comes to an older parent and a younger person who
might be too immature to understand the ramifications.
Peterson argues, however,
that he was the one who made the first move.
"Who made the first
approach was actually me," Peterson told the Daily Mail.
"What happened was, we
were just hanging out and just talking and was just laughing and I looked at
her and she looked at me and I just, I kissed her," he said.
The kiss he explained
"had feelings behind it. It had a spark."
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