How To Overcome Sexual Temptations And Harassments

                   
Sexual sins are so commonplace in the Church today that we would be entering the New Year thoroughly unprepared if we do not take a study that will enable us to deal with the roots of lust in our hearts. Remember anyone and everyone can and will be tempted - no matter how spiritual we are. Let him that thinks he stand take heed lest he falls.

Our case studies today are Samson and Joseph. There are several lessons we can learn from them as we labour in God’s vineyard. These lessons are to enable us to strive to maintain integrity, and help to overcome every trace of lust and immorality.

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How Temptation Works 

13 Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man:
14 But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.
15 Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.
16 Do not err, my beloved brethren.
17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.
18 Of his own will begat he us with the word of truth, that we should be a kind of firstfruits of his creatures. Jam.1
·        Temptation occurs gradually and succeeds only when it finds lust within.
·        Temptation is a drawing away from the presence of God and the family of faith
·        Sin can be aborted at any stage as long as man has breath.

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Sexual Immorality: Mistakes Samson Made

1.      Loss of focus or misplaced priority (Judges 13:25; 14:1-2; Matthew 6:33; Proverbs 1:10)
Samson dabbled into marital affairs too early in life and ministry when he was yet physically, emotionally, spiritually and psychologically immature.

2.     Refusal to heed his father’s advice (Judges 14:3-5; Exodus 34:15-17)
Samson had no counsellor or adviser. When men neglect the silent warnings of God’s word and instruction, they end up in troubles and woes. When men ignore good counsel, they jeopardize their own safety (Proverbs 19:20; Exodus 18:17-19; Proverbs 11:14; 24:6; Deut. 7:3-4).

3.     Always going to the wrong places (Judges 14:5-6, 19; 16:1; Ecclesiastes 4:9)
He went to Timnath alone. He went to the vineyards alone. Even when he was in Timnath with his parents, he still slipped away alone to the vineyards where he saw a lion alone. Later in life, Samson was an isolated warrior and fought battles alone, unlike other patriarchs who all raised armies for God’s battles.

4.     Secret Indulgences (Judges 14:8-9)
Samson ate honey secretly while pretending to his parents that it was from a good source. Learn to probe the source of everything you take. How is your life in secret?

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5.     Bad company (Judges 14:11; 2 Samuel 13:1-5; Psalm 1:1; I Corinthians 15:33 NIV)
One of his companions whom he used as his best man eventually snatched his wife from him. Judges 14:20

6.     Always in the company of the opposite sex (Proverbs 31:2-3. Amplified Bible)
We see three different women in Samson’s life within a short time. Judges 16:1, 4.

7.     Low level of spirituality and seriousness (Judges 14:12-14; 15:3)
Samson was a frivolous person; he was given to jokes, careless jesting, and anger. He was also a talkative, with no trouble revealing divine secrets carelessly. (James 1:26).
8.     Not marrying the right person at the right time (I Corinthians 6:15-16)
Samson should have married properly, without exercising undue delay, at the point when he was beginning to burn with passion – instead of patronizing prostitutes and women of easy virtue. (I Corinthians 7:2, 9; II Corinthians 6:14-18.

9.     Not fleeing from Delilah after the first two victories over her Philistine collaborators
Learn from Joseph. Flee fornication (I Corinthians 6:18; 2 Timothy 2:22).

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Sexual Harassment: Learning from Joseph (Gen 39:7-21)

1.      Refuse to indulge yourself. How did Joseph refuse free sex? By opening his mouth to say NO (v. 8). There are at least 5 tools in the scriptures that can enable you to say no. They are: (1) the Holy Spirit (2) the Word of God (3) a good heart (4) a renewed mind (5) a pure conscience – which is the last line of defence. Each of this can aid your escape out of harassment.
2.     Apply your mind towards your decision. Joseph found logical reasons from his mind to refuse Potiphar’s wife? Can you locate these 5 reasons in verses 8 & 9? Even if you forget God’s word at the instance, what is your mind telling you?
3.     Do not place yourself where harassment can easily occur. Joseph avoided the woman like a plague (vs. 10).
4.     Be courageous to flee. Joseph fled for his Christian life (vs. 12 & 13). He left his garment. He ran out topless. Are you attracted to sin or to flee? Remember you will not be bold to run if you abhor a secret desire for the warmth of the opposite sex.
5.     Be ready to submit to the consequences of your decision. You may suffer punishment. You may lose your job. You may lose the contract. You may be imprisoned, like Joseph. But remember the Lord will see you through (vs. 20 & 21).

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How do you live in secret? Do you walk, live and act as a lone ranger? Can you be readily corrected or counselled? Is there a Delilah in your life already? Or is Potiphar’s wife appearing in your dreams giving you sleepless nights? Let us pray again that God will keep us standing for Him till His coming (John 17:22).

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